Monday, June 11, 2012

We Didn't Start the Fire...

Photo Credit: The LeadStory
A relationship is a relationship.

There's no difference in any because the common denominator is YOU.

And to paraphrase:

“The internal condition of your life will affect all of your relationships."
For example, if you have trust issues then no one will be trustworthy in your mind; not your spouse, your friends, your employer, your co-workers and not even your children. 

Whatever is navigating your life course, whether it be the 7 (wrath, greed, lust, gluttony, envy, pride, sloth) or LOVE, it  is how you will steer your relationship with others.

It doesn't matter if you are ‘sexing’ in a marriage or otherwise; guiding in your parental duties; working; supervising; befriending;  YOU are the captain of the SHIP, so to speak, and how YOU lead is where each of your relationships will go during your journey. 

If you are: divorced, happily married, separated, partnered, have happy children who adore you, have children that despise you, fired, laid off, living from paycheck-to-paycheck, gainfully employed, at the helm of a thriving business; a failing enterprise, have happy clients, dissatisfied customers, a boss that sings your praises; a boss who wishes you'd call in dead, coworkers that want you on their team; coworkers who hide when you come in the front door, friendless, or experiencing thriving friendships, have parents who adore you, parents that hate you, loving relatives, or relatives that are ghost,  it is ALL because of YOU. 
Photo Credit: Aerial View/Larimer County Wildfires (c) 2012
The LeadStory

I was reminded of this “oneness” in our “relation-SHIPS” on Sunday as we were flying into Denver Airport. In this photo you can see an aerial view (at 10,000 feet) of the wildfires that are burning out of control in Larimer County, Colorado.

Most may not know but in flying we use the same terms as we do in "sailing",  We have Captains, First Officers, Pursers,  Aft, Forward, Nautical miles et al,  so when our "Ship” hit moderate -to -severe turbulence, to say it rocked our "boat" would be an understatement.   

While all of us are aware we made the choice to fly that day (or any day) the atmospheric conditions made flying difficult at best. 
Even though the wildfires were burning out of control about 10,000 feet below us and Northwest of our destination –the air above the fires Eddy and swirled causing the turbulence
. I wondered if the Captain of our “ship” didn’t maintain the plane’s distance and altitude could our ship go down – as did the fatal Utah Air Tankers fighting forest fires, last week? 

As Billy Joel sings, "We didn’t start the fire", it was burning long before we got there.  But for a few moments, though,  we got caught up in its rage.

It was then it became very clear “internal conditions could affect everything around it.” 

I thought, if I had a fire raging inside of me – could I bring down all around me? What if I had an abundance of LOVE coursing through my very being would I be able to lift everyone around me up  to new heights?    

As you see, I acknowledge I am the common denominator in all my relationships. I accept I set the course and navigate my relationships to their destination, as do YOU.  YOU are also the Captain in your relationSHIPs. 

So look around you.  Look at your life.   Our lives are made up of moments.  Those moments make up the experiences.  The experiences make our relationships.  

So what do you see? 

If you don’t like where you are heading remember you can always change course. 
A course correction begins and ends with YOU.  

1 comment:

  1. thats too much work - better just to blame others lol

    i kid, i kid!